Who the Eff….

If you’re new here, welcome. Come for the social justice, stay for the occasional post about that one time my dad gave an opossum a funeral pyre.

I am, in no particular order, a calligrapher, crossfitter, editor, graphic designer, knitter, lawyer, seamstress and spinner. OK, I lied. It’s in alphabetical order. And I have a foul mouth. I’m addicted to the serial (Oxford) comma and I doublespace after periods unabashedly. Oh. And I’m the managing editor over at YeahWrite, which you should definitely check out. There’s a little bit of everything there, from traditional blog essays to poetry to microfiction. If you’re looking for my fiction and poetry, though, I hide that over at my other blog. I hope you have as much fun reading it as I do writing it, and if you don’t, well, there’s a whole internet out there. You’ll find something.

Besides writing and editing my stuff I’m available to write and edit yours, whether that looks like your brand new baby novel or the cuss-filled email to your worst client that you need to change into smooth professional correspondence. Drop me a line!

If you love my work, consider buying me a coffee. And by coffee, I mean food and clothing. As a freelancer, every time I provide free content I’m literally not earning the sweet cash I need to survive late-stage capitalism. Thanks!

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22 thoughts on “Who the Eff….”

  1. Thanks for visiting my blog! I love calligraphy and knitting 🙂 I’m looking forward to reading your posts.

  2. Can we be foul mouth friends?

  3. OCD and too many interests are very common traits of bright entrepreneurs. I think blogging is a great way to experiment, find the purpose and determine the niche! Good luck! P.S. I love your writing style! All the best,


  4. Love! Love! Love! the Sekrit Swearz Klub! 😀

  5. After the piece i just read – “Word Count” – I greatly look forward to following.

  6. Hi! this is wonderful. thank you for it. I reposted it on the twitter feed and would like to h/t you but don’t konw if you’re on there – are you? or how would you like to be credited? 🙂 thanks again, such a useful resource, will share!

  7. i just read intersectional feminism 201. thank you! i enjoy supporting writers and activists whose work i find valuable. can i pay you for your work?

    • Yes, and thank you! I’m in the process of rejiggering my Patreon and I’m going to link it to these posts when I get it back in shape. This project really took off!

  8. lawyer, seamstress , and spinner. You say you’re addicted to the Oxford comma but don’t use it? Unless i’m getting my grammar confused!

  9. Hi!

    Thank you so much for your comprehensive guide to joining intersectional feminist spaces! Would it be permissable to translate the article into Swedish and republish it on my blog queerfemoasen.wordpress.com? With full credit to you of course!

    Thank you so much in advance!

    Kind regards,

    • Oh my goodness. Yes, thank you for asking, and please let me know the link to the translation so I can add it to the body of the post as a resource.

  10. Hi there, I just read through your excellent 101 and 201 essays, and I have a request for something to consider as a possible future topic. If I’m stepping too far into “making you educate me” territory, I apologize, but thanks in advance for considering it regardless!


    I’m lucky enough to be privileged as shit – straight, white, healthy, CIS male, educated, born in the US, with two accomplished parents, and a modest but distinctly middle-class upbringing. If you were making a bingo-card of privilege, pretty much all I’m missing is six more inches of height, a mesomorphic body shape, membership in one of my area’s dominant religious denominations (which I could obviously have if I wanted) and having been born into serious money, celebrity, or political connection.

    That being the case, your essays crystallized a question in my mind that I’ve not been able to find a satisfactory answer to, and I’d value your insight: In the simplest of terms, why put myself into expressly intersectional feminist spaces at all? (And yes, I get that being able to ask that question is in and of itself an expression of privilege, but bear with me please.)

    I have a strong personality, a love of debate, a natural distrust of feelings-based assertions and symbolic gestures, and a penchant for inadvertantly accumulating authority. In much of our society, that is a pretty decent set of attributes for getting things done, so why put myself in an environment where every one of those things, plus basically everything I was born with, is a potential cause or exacerbator of offense and unrest, and the best thing I can do is mostly to sit down and shut up?

    Why not just give some money to a suitable group every once in a while, vote the right way, show up to hold a sign if there is a mass protest going on, and otherwise spend my time and energy as an activist in contexts where I’m not the natural face of so much of what’s keeping everyone else down?

    And even if I were to spend a bunch of time and energy finding a home in an intersectional feminist space, would I really have achieved anything in doing so besides securing a new kind of privilege over my fellow straight white dudes?

    • To be clear, the intent of my “why” question above is not intended to be “in what way do I personally benefit”, but in what way does anyone, or even society writ large, benefit given the opportunity costs involved?

      • I mean, it’s a good question, and a fairly respectful one about how much space you should take up. I guess my baseline is that if you’re not in those spaces you’re not going to hear the things you need to be hearing in order to identify and understand the problem. There’s also this little thing where straight white guys listen to straight white guys, so basically one of the most important things you can do for us is to sit and listen respectfully and then carry your understanding out into the spaces that we *can’t* access because we get shouted over. It’s an extrapolation of “white women need to do this 101 level stuff for other white women” to save the energy of WOC; if you can do the 101-level stuff with men, we’re all going to be positioned to have more interesting and productive discussions. Ultimately, the whole world should be an intersectional space, y’know? We can do that by propagating ideas from safer spaces to less safe spaces. Go forth, Patient Zero, and spread knowledge among your kind 🙂

        • Thought provoking answer, and definitely the best one I’ve seen on the subject. Thanks! I also quite like the epidemiology metaphor! 🙂

  11. Jeanne Gervais said:

    Hello! I’m leading a series of workshops at my corporate office on how to engage in justice work and not be a jerk about it as a white person. I’d love to use your post, How to survive in intersectional feminist spaces 101, in one of the sessions, but I’d have to adapt some of the language to fit the environment. If I cited you properly, would you be okay with me adapting it for my purposes?

    • Sure! As in any context, just make sure you distinguish between where (if anywhere) you quote directly and where you’ve adapted (my guess would be the swearing’s out in that environment at the very least 🙂 ) And yes, thanks for the cite!

      • Jeanne Gervais said:

        Yes, thank you! I’d be mainly taking out the swearing. I’ve gotten in trouble with HR before on that one. Doing anti-racist work in a corporate context means asking for forgiveness rather than permission A LOT, but I don’t want to push them on small things. It’s SUCH a great post, thank you for articulating so many great points.

  12. I love double spacing after periods so much!!!

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